DATING THROUGH MY EYES

“YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE GREAT TO START, BUT YOU HAVE TO EVENTUALLY START SOMEWHERE TO BE GREAT”

Welcome back to another podcast episode of PAIN4GAIN. Hosted by yours truly DEMARCO CASTILO.  This is episode is sponsored by ME ;))  I am a one stop shop for all your needs and wants..lol!!

In this episode, I will talk about my journey into the dating world.  I mentioned in the last podcast (click here if you haven’t heard it yet. http://demarcocastillo.com/?p=56 ) that I will discuss my experience as a bachelor with low vision.  I have noticed that my story on how I got into the PICK UP community has intrigued a lot of people so; why not talk about it on a larger platform.

Growing up I was very insecure about myself because of my low vision.   I always felt different and as an outcast at times because of low vision.  Aside from that, I assumed that women didn’t want to date me because of the lack of transportation that I had.  Some women did prove my theory right and, others definitely have proven me wrong.  I guess, we attract what we constantly think about the most and I attracted the women into my life that didn’t want anything to do with me because of the lack of transportation.

Being insecure, made me very angry about my situation and unfortunately, I took it out of all the people who loved me and wanted to help me.  For a very long time, I had this victim mentality that I was not the problem, but rather the situation I was in.  therefore, I had a perfectly good reason to be mad and act like a complete jerk to everyone around me.  It ruined a lot of great relationships I had with friends and family.  Actually, till this day I am trying to repair it.

Aside from feeling insecure and angry, I eventually become sad and depressed.  It got to a point that I felt sorry for myself and everyone else should feel sorry for me too.  I was so depressed because I had no social life, barely any social skills and didn’t know what else to do.  I signed up to see a therapist for a while and that didn’t help much.  I was considering anti-depressant, but I eventually said no to them.   I said no to them because I was scared what they might do to me. Even worse, rely on them just to have a functional day,  So I just dealt with it and “hoped” things got better.  (By the way, HOPE is not a strategy.  So don’t rely on that when it comes to your love life, finances, and career.)

The last stage of my emotional journey that almost sent me to my grave, was that I felt hopeless.   I felt like my situation had no light at the end of the tunnel.  My mother and other family members did all they could to help me; but the truth was, I wanted to feel sorry for myself and to be left alone e in this horrible state of mind that I was in.  I honestly did not know what else to do or who to turn to for help…

Eventually, I found this great book and it turned my life completely around in ways that I never thought my life could be any different.  After reading this book, I replaced those four horrible feeling with four news ones…

I went from being…

Insecure

Angry

Sad  

Hopeless 

 TO

Hopefull

Happy and eager

Grateful and appreciative

Confident

What was the book, well, you have to listen to the podcast and find out ;))  Plus you need to listen to how I went from no women in my life to nothing but clubs, bars, women, and having fun!!!

BOOKS MENTIONED IN THIS PODCAST

FAILING FORWARD by JOHN MAXWELL  http://www.amazon.com/Failing-Forward-Turning-Mistakes-Stepping/dp/0785288570/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1447171084&sr=8-1&keywords=FAILING+FORWARD

THE 15 INVALUABLE LAWS OF GROWTH by JOHN MAXWELL  http://www.amazon.com/15-Invaluable-Laws-Growth-Potential/dp/1599953676/ref=sr_1_sc_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1447171130&sr=8-1-spell&keywords=THE+15+LAWS+OF+GROTH

WHO MOVED MY CHEESE by SPENCER JOHNSON  http://www.amazon.com/Who-Moved-My-Cheese-Amazing/dp/0399144463/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1447171213&sr=8-1&keywords=who+moved+my+cheese

AWAKEN THE SLEEPING GIANT WITHIN by TONY ROBBINS  http://www.amazon.com/Awaken-Giant-Within-Immediate-Emotional/dp/0671791540/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1447171307&sr=8-1&keywords=AWAKEN+THE+SLEEPING+GIANT+WITHING

THE GAME by NEIL STRAUSS  http://www.amazon.com/Game-Neil-Strauss-ebook/dp/B007MAXHUG/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&qid=1447171461&sr=8-5&keywords=THE+GAME

THE PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS by Chris Gardner  http://www.amazon.com/Pursuit-Happyness-Chris-Gardner/dp/0060744871/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1447171505&sr=8-3&keywords=THE+PURSUIT+OF+HAPPYNESS

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Depression and what to do about it

Hey, Guys

how to deal with depression and being active
how to deal with depression and being active

Thanks for checking out my first post.  It took me a while to figure out what I wanted to talk about; because I wanted to be as honest and open with you as possible.  At the same time, I wanted you to feel inspired and ready to take on the world.  In this audio blog, I briefly touch on the subject of Purpose and depression that we come across every so often in our lives.

Just for the record, this podcast/blog is in the starting phases.   (So I do apologize in advance if it’s a little Raw)   There will never be a more perfect time than the present.  Most of us delay or procrastinate on our dreams or goals; because for some reason, we feel that everything has to be perfect.  Your family, work schedule, school, etc.  Honestly, if you haven’t noticed by now, that day will never come!!  WHAT YOU HAVE RIGHT NOW, IS “ENOUGH” TO GET STARTED!!!!

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